Is It Okay To Be Judgmental?
September 21, 2010 by rtwsenior
Not long ago, I had a conversation with someone about the subject of Hoarding. We were examining the whole range of folks who become so obsessed with possessions that they might seriously reduce their living space by continuing to accumulate objects without ever being willing to get rid of what they already have. I must admit that my own trip to the thrift shop to clear my drawers and closets is long overdue; but we were speaking mostly of folks who become collectors of certain types of possessions – ceramic roosters, extensive gun collections, old cars, autographs, bric-a-brac. We both knew folks who had built large rooms onto their homes in order to properly house the growing passion to own more and more and more of their beloved objects.
We happened to be speaking about a gun collector who had lots of military munitions in a locked, specially-built room, shown only to a trusted few. This man was one of the town’s best surgeons. I made some comment about his being a secret Rambo, whose day job was saving people’s lives, but whose inner heart space was, apparently stuffed like that room, with life-destroying objects. At that point, our conversation shifted and I was accused of passing judgment on another person’s lifestyle. Since he knew that I regularly communicate with The Holy Spirit and The Great Creative Force, he suggested that I ask my “Sources” what They thought about being judgmental. That was fair and I also agreed to ask if They had any comments about Hoarding, as well. So, this post will cover judging and the next one will take up the subject of collectors-gone-wild.
Oh my Holy Spirit. Was I being judgmental about that wanna-be-Rambo surgeon and do I have that tendency in general?
“Oh My Linda Layli, We know that you judge and that’s a good thing because no one can go through life without taking a position about how they feel on these points. Everything has a moral weight to it. Everything has a point of view. Everybody must decide for himself how he feels about so many points as they arise from time to time in their lifetime. If you don’t do that, you are not forming any sort of character template. You are just staying a blank slate and you will go out of life with nothing accomplished.
These conclusions form notches in your character belt and they are what you have to show for having passed through a plane of physicality. You must think, in order to accomplish these notches. The danger lies in accumulating no notches as you move along the conveyor belt of life. No thought process, equals no notches; no notches, equals a total lack of character formed. Every previous notch, at least gives you a basis for future thinking about that point and perhaps a changing of mind or a deepening of the same notch.
So, judgment-making is necessary for every human to do throughout their long, long life; or even their very short life. We expect to see a very notched-up belt at the end of the roll of every particular life lived by every human being on this planet. Now, the judgment might not be quite fair from another person’s viewpoint, but these notches represent a moral stance, which is what We look for in a human intelligence.”
So, His answer took some of the sting out of the idea of my being judgmental during that conversation. I also believe that we have a responsibility to be kind to others and to keep our pronouncements concerning our judgmental conclusions to ourselves. Obviously, I can’t avoid being judged by others; but I do appreciate their thoughtfulness in leaving me, for the most part, ignorant about their conclusions.
So, if we keep our conclusions mental, (judgmental) while we whittle our notches, we’ll be okay. Next time, we’ll examine the answer He gave about Hoarding.